For Valentine’s day, I thought I would post on weddings in China and some of the observations that I’ve had over the last four years. I have been lucky enough to go to many weddings of friends and co-workers and each one has been different but they all have some similarities.
Weddings are a strange concept in this culture – where until the early 2000s you needed to ask permission from your boss to get married. There are bits of tradition that were almost destroyed during the Mao era that are struggling to return and then there are western customs that have been pasted on in a haphazard way into the Chinese culture. At their best it serves as a bridge between different cultures and traditions – at its worse it is a disconnected event without much meaning.
I’ve had weddings on my mind a lot lately as soon we will have our own. After knowing each other for over four years Li and I finally tied the knot last December and will be having a Chinese wedding in March. It promises to be a big event and since it is in his hometown my opinion is not the key one, instead his mom and sister have taken over all preparation.
People keep asking me if I’m excited and I am, but I think it is a different kind of excitement than a typical bride – it will be an interesting experience for sure. Our parents will get to meet and I’ll get to experience from a very personal point of view a wedding in China.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all my readers. When this post goes out to you all we will be celebrating away from Shanghai and its cold winter. I hope that you are able to escape as well.
What’s your view on weddings?